Published inBeloved·PinnedMember-onlyJust F’ing Love Me It’s Not That ComplicatedExcuse me while I vent about love and marriage — I’m not sure who coined the oxymoron ‘Happily Married’ but I wasn’t. I tried to do the honorable and expected thing and cover it up. Only sadly, I don’t do unhappiness well. Eventually, I had to come clean. I had to share. I had to talk about it. It seemed…Humor5 min readHumor5 min read
Published inILLUMINATION·PinnedMember-onlyI Lost Everything I OwnedBut this is what made me cry like a baby — I’m walking my dogs this morning when tears fill my eyes. It’s been a month. I shouldn’t feel this sadness. I tell myself I’m being silly. I lost my home in a divorce. I lost 4,500 square feet of belongings. I lost a beach house and a rental property. I…This Happened To Me5 min readThis Happened To Me5 min read
Published inHello, Love·PinnedMember-onlyYou Need to Ask Yourself this One Relationship QuestionTo know if your relationship is healthy or unhealthy. — By the time I sought relationship counseling, I was in deep. You know what I’m talking about. He’s the love of my life and all that good love stuff. It was all about him. How could I reach him? How could I live without him? How could I get over…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inHello, Love·PinnedMember-onlyHow to Know When It’s Too Late to Save a MarriageThis short business story might give you that answer — As a marketer, I once consulted with a car wash that was losing money in one location and breaking even in another. It was no small task. The car wash business is a cash cow for owners but employee pay is minimal. I was walking into a business that had…Relationships6 min readRelationships6 min read
Published inAbout Me Stories·PinnedMember-onlyAbout Me — Colleen Sheehy OrmeI have always been motivated by love — I call myself a southern New Yorker much to the dismay of my true Nu Yawker buddies. I blame it on my native Brooklyn parents and a large Irish brood that makes The Big Apple home. I am also a declared Jersey girl despite the protests of my Sea Isle…About Me4 min readAbout Me4 min read
9 hours agoMember-onlyThe Kind of Man I Want to Meet After My Divorce5 Things that are my definite deal-breakers — It took me a long time to feel ready to date. At times, I’m still not sure I really am. But I’m definitely making progress. I no longer joke with my boys that if they get married I’ll throw my body across the altar. C’mon that’s some forward movement, isn’t…Relationships6 min readRelationships6 min read
Published inHello, Love·19 hours agoMember-only5 Married Behaviors that Would Have Made Me Run From My Husband While DatingInstead, I crawled under the covers with my newlywed tears. — I didn’t date a good guy. I dated a great guy. Everyone loved him. I loved him. No one had a bad thing to say about him. He was a tall handsome drink of water with a charismatic demeanor. And then… I married him. “What happened?” I say to my…Relationships7 min readRelationships7 min read
Published inThe Virago·23 hours agoMember-onlyMy Husband Wanted Me to Brutally Suffer Just Because I Divorced HimAnd he enjoyed his sideline view — how messed up is that?! — “Get a job,” says my husband. “I need a car,” I say. “Mine is ten years old and every time it’s in the shop you leave it there for weeks refusing to pick it up.” “You wanted to divorce me,” says my husband. “You can get your own car.” “I…Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
Published inHello, Love·1 day agoMember-onlyI Regret Being Such a Pleaser and a Fixer Throughout My MarriageMy husband was an adult I shouldn’t have been his rescuer. — I motion to my husband and mouth some words quietly. “Put that customer on hold,” I say. I can tell my husband is annoyed and this isn’t going to be the best customer service call. “Put them on hold,” I say again. “Let me talk to them.” We are newlyweds…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Published inThe Virago·1 day agoMember-onlyI Did This Man a Favor for Almost 30 YearsAnd then he refused to pay me back — I paid my way through college so I learned to be pretty good with a buck. There was a friend of mine who totally wasn’t. He was a really nice guy, but he couldn’t manage the money his parents sent him each month. “It’s okay,” I would say. “I’ll pay…Feminism4 min readFeminism4 min read