Social media silences a narcissistic threat

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On January 6, 2021, this great country was assaulted by our own people. We watched in disbelief as individuals pushed Capitol Police further up the steps. These select law enforcement officers both surprised and outnumbered by the unexpected attack.

One brought on by their own Commander-in-Chief.

The very person whose job it is to protect them from the threat of invasion.

We watched in horror waiting for additional help to arrive. But shockingly it did not. Instead, while our elected officials, law enforcement, and others were under siege our President stayed silent.

As did his inner circle.

It would take Twitter to temporarily shut down the threat known as Donald Trump.


Practical exercises to say goodbye 2020 and hello 2021

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I ran into a friend recently who owns a liquor store. I figured he was having a pretty good year since alcohol is one of the pandemic growth industries. It ranks up there with toilet paper. Basic needs and all. Turns out we have our priorities when it comes to shutdowns.

“How are you?” I asked.

“I’m doing really well,” he said. “But I feel guilty my business is taking off while many people are suffering.”

I get why he feels guilty.

Some have prospered or maintained emotionally, physically, and financially this year.

And others have been completely totaled.

We have all experienced a different relationship with 2020.


Alec Baldwin might rescue his wife with humor

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Will SNL be bold enough to do ‘la parodia’ of Hilaria? Or will the notoriously ‘politically incorrect’ comedy show opt to be uncharacteristically correct?

Only time and perhaps Alec Baldwin will tell.

While established comics, as well as unknown comedians, have Twitter users laughing out loud, it’s hard not to dream of SNL. The possibilities are endless. The iconic show could gift viewers with a proverbial sketch gold mine.

Especially with Alec Baldwin as part of the ensemble.

Let’s face it, it’s not like other late-night shows won’t be doing, “How you say in English?” ‘Parodies’ of their own.

If Baldwin sanctions SNL, he has a chance to control the narrative instead of reacting to it. He might just be the one to safely guide his wife through this nightmare. …


3 Things she must do to recover

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In the words of Amy Schumer, “I get it.”

In between my cousins' thick Nu Yawker ‘Youse guys’ and my ‘Y’all’s,’ I like to say I’m a southern New Yorker.

And I don’t stop there. I owned a house on the Jersey Shore for sixteen years. Naturally, I was a Jersey girl. When my Jersey friends balk, I remind them I was an actual homeowner.

It’s what I call a sense of humor.

Hilaria Baldwin calls it the truth.

Personally, I want to like her. She seems to have tamed the beast in Alec Baldwin. And a mother of five is someone I admire. …

And it wasn’t another woman.

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There’s this age-old comment about who’s to blame when a relationship ends. If you know me, it’s best not to say it around me. It takes a lot to ruffle my feathers but this adage provokes me.

“It takes two,” they say.

Well no, I’m sorry it doesn’t.

Not in all cases.

I had what I call a ‘third party’ in my marriage. Not another woman. That would have been traumatic in an entirely different way. I speak to men and women who have been cheated on. It’s an impossible wound.

I suffered a different type of emotional injury.

No matter how hard I worked to save my marriage, I was unsuccessful. …

3 reasons the outcome will never be fair

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I don’t know why survivors of narcissistic abuse seek fairness but we do. Ironically, it’s such a contradiction to the individual we are freeing ourselves from. There is nothing good, equal, or fair about the relationship with a narcissist. There never will be.

It was always an emotional imbalance.

Nonetheless, we torture ourselves into believing that at least when we leave them, there will finally be justice. That some type of rational equity will bubble to the surface.

It won’t.

And we shouldn’t look for it.

But we do continue to look for some degree of fairness. Not because we can’t get over the narcissist. We left this individual. It’s because even in breaking up with them or divorcing them they haunt us. …

Marriage Counseling

A must-read divorce tip

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By the time I retained my lawyer I was emotionally spent. I naively believed I was initiating a resolution to my marital issues. I had no idea this was simply the mechanics of divorce, the infrastructure.

There was something far more dangerous lurking in the distance.

But no one told me.

I wouldn’t make that same mistake. I would tell others.

And I did recently, while on the phone with several of my newly separated friends.

If you end up divorcing, you need to multiply your spouse’s personality times ten,” I say. “If they are controlling multiply it. If they are unreasonable multiply it. If they are angry multiply it. …

To increase both your focus and your profits

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When I was writing my business column, a major publisher asked me to submit a proposal. I jokingly told the editor if I wrote an entrepreneurial book she wouldn’t like the title.

“It’s not that complicated,” I said.

In reality, it is and it isn’t.

The basic principles of marketing are concrete. That’s the uncomplicated part.

But the mind of an entrepreneur is complicated.

In the corporate world, most understand what the title CEO means. In the entrepreneurial marketing world, we give this acronym an entirely different meaning. The CEO or Chief Everything Officer.

A small business owner must do it all. …

Here’s why every woman should want to be one too

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My mom raised a lot of badasses. Maybe that’s why she nudged her youngest down the conservative road. Or maybe it was that I came across more dreamer than focused so she felt the need to intervene. Regardless, I pushed aside my youthful ambitions and went down the straight and narrow. I took my accountant mother’s advice and went into business.

I was not destined to be a badass.

Or maybe as the baby, I was destined to be the delayed badass of the family.

I loved business but there was always something missing. A yearning. I recognized the familiar voice. …


That’s why their stories live through the voices of those who have survived them

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I just read an article that questioned why we only hear stories told by the victims of narcissists.

The writer felt it was unfair. She believed narcissists should have a voice. And ironically, that we should have empathy for them because they suffer from a mental health disorder.

I’ve often said anyone who writes about narcissistic personality disorder bears significant responsibility. It’s a complex topic and a dangerous disorder.

There is a reason we never hear stories from the narcissist's point of view.

An individual who actually has a narcissistic personality disorder does not believe they are a narcissist. …


Colleen Sheehy Orme

National Relationship Columnist, Freelance Journalist & Former Business Columnist. All Shapes of Love — #WomanResurrected colleen.sheehy.orme@gmail.com

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