I have always been motivated by love — I call myself a southern New Yorker much to the dismay of my true Nu Yawker buddies. I blame it on my native Brooklyn parents and a large Irish brood that makes The Big Apple home. I am also a declared Jersey girl despite the protests of my Sea Isle…

A breakup caused my emotional death — “Leave him before he destroys any more of you,” she says. The words slap me through the phone. I know she’s right. I hear the desperation in her voice. The urgency to save me. Tracey feels me slipping away. I feel it too. I just can’t stop it. I pace…

The good news is there is more than one true love out there — At sixteen, I believed my best friend and I would one-day live side by side. Our gorgeous families separated only by dreamy white picket fences. A romantic suburban euphoria. By the time I was nineteen, I graduated to believing I had found the love of my life. And of course…

If you care to know them — I love reading the ‘About Me’ stories on this platform. A shout-out to Quy Ma who is the founder of About Me Stories. What an awesome publication you started. I thought I’d share 25 Things You Don’t Know About Me. As a writer, it’s hard to believe I have any…

Now I don’t want to come out to play in this body — I spent my summers wearing what I call my ‘out of state’ clothes at the Jersey Shore. They were a little too Harper Valley PTA to wear in the halls of my children’s elementary school. My uniform was a bikini for more years than most. …

Do you remember this moment? — I remember where I was standing when the first indicator of a narcissist made itself known. I was two years into my marriage with my college sweetheart. A guy I had dated for nearly six years. We were easing past the honeymoon stage and into our brand new townhouse. I…

Depp vs Heard was it Mutual or Reactive Abuse? — The Johnny Depp v. Amber Heard trial ignited a particular controversy within the abuse community. Dr. Laurel Anderson a clinical psychologist and the couple’s marriage counselor said Depp and Heard engaged in ‘mutual abuse.’ The vast majority of the mental health and abuse communities reject the notion of mutual abuse…

I say it’s surrendering to your truth — I didn’t want to get married because I didn’t want to get divorced. Yet here I am. As a journalist and former business columnist, I made a decision to focus on relationships. I knew eight years ago when I began my column on divorce it would be controversial. …

The lies spouses tell in divorce to win — Nowhere is lying more richly rewarded than divorce. There’s been some support for Amber Heard. But I find myself wondering if those individuals watched a significant portion of the trial or read and watched clips. I watched much of the trial because I wanted to get to the truth. Along…