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A Happy Narcissist Is Harder to Detect
Once my husband was unhappy he couldn’t hide
I walk into the bedroom and tell my husband it’s time to leave for our son’s game.
“No one asked me what I wanted to do today,” he says.
“You decided what you wanted to do today,” I say. “When you got married and had children.”
I’m not sure what was more shocking.
That I had married such a spoiled man or that I had never known it. All these years later, I know exactly why I didn’t recognize it sooner. Even despite his sporadic cycle of emotional cruelty.
A happy narcissist is a less obvious one.
Unhappy narcissists can’t control themselves.
The charm decreases and the hostility increases.
Prior to this incident, our marriage counselor had asked me what I was thinking all these years, asking my husband to do virtually nothing. This wasn’t my opinion.
The counselor discerned it one day when my husband looked at him and said, “Can you believe she’s got me driving these kids here and driving these kids there?”
When we got to the car, I shook my head, not believing my husband would be foolish enough to say that. Definitely not the wisest thing to say to a…
