Birthdays Without My Ex Are Awesome

I feel more loved alone than I did while married

Colleen Sheehy Orme
3 min readOct 22, 2024
Photo by Ala Ben Brahem: On Pexels

Today is my birthday. To be fair, I might’ve pregamed last night. Unfortunately (or fortunately) I ran into the very (very) good-looking guy who just moved into our building.

Thankfully, he had his son with him.

If not, I might’ve told him I was his forever.

Vodka’s not my friend.

But I digress.

Birthdays without my ex are awesome. They’re completely normal. It’s a happy day. There are no tears, no disappointment, and no battles.

There’s something even more amazing.

I feel loved on my birthday.

Weird, right?

I feel more loved alone than when I was with a man.

That’s a hard riddle to figure out, or maybe it’s not. My birthday was a reminder of how ignored I was. I never needed my husband on the average day. I never needed him to show up in my life.

But on my birthday I did.

When I tried to speak to him about it the conversation was always the same.

“Birthdays are important,” I said.

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Colleen Sheehy Orme
Colleen Sheehy Orme

Written by Colleen Sheehy Orme

National Relationship Columnist, Journalist & Former Business Columnist. I cover love, life, & relationships— #WomanResurrected colleen.sheehy.orme@gmail.com