Can a Narcissist Leave You With Post Traumatic Stress?

After leaving one I keep having the same recurring nightmare

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In a panic, I run throughout my dream searching for someone to rescue me. But I can never find the person I am looking for. I beg others to help me. I tell them to find my mother because I know she will get me out of here. Or my sisters or my brother or my friends.

The girl who didn’t want to make waves. The peacemaker. The people-pleaser. I can’t cancel a wedding on the actual wedding day. In front of all of our family and friends. I’m stuck. I continue to protest and say I do not want to do this.

I tell my sister about my recurring divorcemare. She thinks I might have a little post-traumatic stress.

Not actual Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder but a lingering sense of trauma.

It’s not normal to have nightmares two years post-divorce. Scratch that. It’s not normal to have nightmares at all because of a breakup or divorce. Yet mine continue.

This is exactly how it played out in real life.

I don’t think it’s a coincidence my dream ends with me wondering how I got myself into this situation. It is a question I have asked myself countless times. One that even those who know me have asked me.

How did a strong and independent girl fall for a narcissist? But worse, how could it take her this long and involve so much brutality to escape him?

Yet in the dark of night, when my sleep is interrupted by a panicked bride in need of rescue…

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National Relationship Columnist, Freelance Journalist & Former Business Columnist. All Shapes of Love — #WomanResurrected

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