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Children Still Need Their Parents in Divorce
But my husband was nowhere to be found
About a year into my divorce my children are in the kitchen talking.
“Dad called,” says one of them.
“Big surprise, there’s a game on,” says another.
In the collective moment, they are acknowledging their father’s absence.
Since I retained an attorney their father has shown up to their games and a few school events. Other than that, he calls if he needs someone to watch a game on television.
What my children don’t know is I have called their dad months before.
But my pleas fall on deaf ears.
I can tell my youngest misses him so I attempt to get his attention.
“Listen,” I say. “Our oldest is away at college, and as a senior, our other son is becoming naturally independent. But our youngest is only fourteen, he needs his dad. I can tell he misses you.”
“What’s the big deal?” he asks. “I see him when I drive him to carpool in the morning.”
This is true and a new occurrence but only for one reason.
Two mechanics have told me my ten-year-old car is unsafe to drive.
