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Do You Feel the Need to Rescue the One You Love?
How being a fixer and a rescuer can actually take you down
It seems noble, doesn’t it? Almost altruistic to sacrifice ourselves for another’s well-being. Like it’s the right thing to do. To run towards the injured individual rather than away.
No matter we might exhaust ourselves, deplete ourselves, and deprive ourselves. It is a small price to pay to hold onto the one we love. Or even more importantly, keep a family together.
We are rescuers. And rescuers are really good at one thing. We are problem solvers. “Ain't no mountain high enough, no valley low enough” kinda people. We will overcome. We will persevere.
We are overly caring and empathetic. We are loyal, tenacious and above all we are fixers. We make things happen. We believe in the impossible. We believe we can defy the odds. Did I mention we also lack self-protective boundaries? But no matter. We find satisfaction in coming through for people.
We see human ‘need’ and can’t resist the urge to provide.
