Hi Constance, I happen to write about my experience as a woman but I hear from plenty of men who have experienced similar emotions and situations. I did learn in counseling two things. That my husband did do all of the bad behavior he did but that I made the choices to stay with him and tolerate it. I know a lot of very good men. Actually, most of the men I know are wonderful men. But I did not marry one. I married a man who was diagnosed with a very severe personality disorder and as lacking empathy. There's a reason you read many articles like this. It's abuse and people write about it. Happily married women with husbands who treat them well do not need to tell their stories. One thing I would caution you about especially as the adult child of an alcoholic is not to blame a woman or a man for their spouse's drinking. The first thing you learn in counsleing is there is no excuse for repeatedly bad behavior, not to mention alcohol is an addiction for many which means the other spouse cannot be blamed. Here's an example of an article I wrote in support of good men https://medium.com/hello-love/there-are-a-lot-of-good-men-f58aec33fe93