Hi Doug, I hope so because I would want to have the same values as they do, care about what's important to them, and care about who they are and what makes them tick. My list isn't selfish. I'm not selfish. I was married to someone who was diagnosed as lackiing empathy and have narcissistic personality disorder on the extreme end of the spectrum. It was lonely being married to a man who only cared about himself. I want a shared experience this time around.