Hi Glenn, I completely agree with you. I just tell my story but I always say bad behavior is not gender exclusive. There are just as many men who marry difficult and/or extreme personalities as women do. I can relate to what you say about waiting and PTSD. People often ask me why I haven't dated during my five year divorce or the five years after. Honestly, it's taken ten years just to get through the trauma and the fear of attaching myself to someone like this again.