Hi Harry, No I'm so sorry I did not know that. I know you write about your wife now and I think that is your second wife but I did not know you lost your wife and son. I can't imagine your heartache. My sister lost her beautiful son. It's an unbearable tragedy. You are correct with your words as my marriage counselor who is a psychologist used similar words. He counseled widows and divorced women through his church and they compared their pain and he said he felt that divorce grief can be never-ending with no closure. You are so kind and I am doing so much better just trying to recover financially. I write about my experiences to help others but things are so much better in my life. I just have to figure out my professional income and a few other things. Again, I can't imagine your pain I'm so sorry.