Hi Jane, How so? This was meant to be about the irony that I could leave a man because it felt lonely being married and those words started a war in our marriage. He said it was a betrayal and then after dragging me through a five year divorce and refusing to divorce me he tells me he is lonely. But the shocker is that he's inviting me over to hook up with him. Who does that after a long abusive divorce? Not reality based.