Hi Kathleen, you are right. Our second marriage counselor was a psychologist and diagnosed my husband as lacking empathy and having narcissistic personality disorder. I write a lot about narcissism because of this. Sometimes I just write about divorce and this first counselor who I loved identified him as difficult but not as a narcissist so I kept it to that experience. I don't think he had the concentration in narcissism to see it plus this was just about the time that they were deep diving into the study of narcissism. It was about 1996 and it was the late 1980's that the study of narcissism was being given additional attention and why we now thankfully know much more about it. I hope you got out too if this was the type of person you were with.