Hi Keith, I think you are right about the conversation and you've actually given me an idea about something else I need to write about. There wasn't a conversation with my ex-husband ever. That was a huge part of the problem. He didn't say hey that doesn't work for my schedule this week can you schedule it at another time. He just refused to do things there was no negotiation. When he refused to pick me up from the hospital when our second son was born I tried to negotiate with him. I said what if we ask the hospital if it can be late afternoon so it doesn't interfere with your work. He was rigid. He wouldn't compromise or negotiate. After he was diagnosed with a narcissistic personality disorder and lacking empathy I realized that's a characteristic of narcissism. They do not compromise they win.