Hi Kristina, I'm so sorry I'm just now responding back to you. When I said I he wouldn't come home early I was speaking in the context of maybe five times a year. I knew because my husband sent a very clear message I was not to interrupt his work day. The requests I made were a couple of times a year. I didn't expect him to check in with me every day. He never called me during the work day. To the point that when I did hear from him it would alarm me and I would ask him if everything was okay. Obviously, that's not normal. To never hear from your spouse ever during work to the point your first inclination is fear that something is wrong in his life. My husband felt earning the money made him superior over me and I was an obligation which is a terrible feeling. Also, I wasn't the typical stay-at-home mom we built a business together in our twenties, I did the finances for the business and investment properties, I handled mortgages, refinancing, car purchases, home repairs, cleaning, and we had someone cut our lawn. His responsiblity was to go to work and he has three months off a year because of the industry our business is in. You've given me food for thought though about another article. I think you and I had extreme situations because you have someone who is disabled and because it sounds like you are still doing a disproportionate amount of stuff. Even though my husband worked outside our home I was doing a disproportionate amount of stuff. My husband wanted to say we had a traditional relationship but a man in a traditional relationship handles repairs, yardwork, paying the bills, the cars, and the yard. My husband left all of that to me with the exception of the yard. And I continued to work in aspects of our jointly owned business and even my husband used to say I did the volunteer version of working.