Hi Nancy, I'm so glad he moved on too. It's liberating to have zero feelings for him. I write about this topic and write in the present tense active voice many times but I do it to help others not because I'm not over him. I don't know if it was called empathy testing but it definitely was. My husband and I were each given a test with about 100 questions. We had been in marriage counseling for months so obviously the marriage counselor who was a psychologist was observing as well. But when our results came in from the test, the counselor looked at me and said I wasn't just an enabler I was a major major enabler. And then he said an enabler is an overly caring person who tolerates repeatedly bad behavior. Then he looked at my ex-husband and said you lack empathy it's a critical defiicit. It's a developmental stage we receive in childhood and you never got it. My husband looked back at him and said, "Why do I care if some dog fell through the ice on the evening news or some guy I don't know lost his job." For this reason, the only two questions on the test that I remember are those because of my ex-husband's response.