Hi Soren, If you're meaning to say that I'm a spouse not taking accountability I am not. If you read my work you will discover that I left a man who was diagnosed by a psychologist as lacking critical empathy and having narcissistic personality disorder on the severe end of the spectrum. I was one of the rare fortunate women (or men) who got an actual diagnosis to understand why the person they married was two completely different people. If a person marries an individual with a disorder or an illness it's not the same relationship dynamic. One of the spouse's has a serious illness that impacts the relationship. Because we did receive his diagnosis I am able to understand and not be upset by why the dynamic in his new marriage is different.just as our dynamic was perfectly fine in the years he got what he wanted from me until I stopped.