Hi There, Your comment is really thoughtful. I appreciate it. With narcissistic personality disorder they do not have the ability to reflect on their behavior. It's due to their critical lack of empathy. Empathy is the ability to feel the pain of another. A narcissist only feels their own pain so they never arrive at a moment of emotional sobriety. For instance, an alcoholic might have a moment of sobriety where they regret their behavior. That never occurs for a true narcissist. Because it's true narcissism and not a narcissistic characteristic such as self-absorption. It's why it's such a cruel and disturbing disorder you can't reach this person because their lack of empathy makes them not feel your pain.