Hi Zachary, I'm sorry I'm just now responding. Like you, I feel the pain of both parties too because they are both great people. I've spent so many years in the counseling and research of love and relationships that I can't necessarily fool myself. I would look at it pragmatically. That because we are in two different phases of divorce that maybe it's just not the right timing. Also, I had to beg my husband to make me a priority so I'm never doing that again with a man.