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I Knew My Marriage Was Over
A must-read divorce tip
By the time I retained my lawyer I was emotionally spent. I naively believed I was initiating a resolution to my marital issues. I had no idea this was simply the mechanics of divorce, the infrastructure.
There was something far more dangerous lurking in the distance.
But no one told me.
I wouldn’t make that same mistake. I would tell others.
And I did recently, while on the phone with several of my newly separated friends.
“If you end up divorcing, you need to multiply your spouse’s personality times ten,” I say. “If they are controlling multiply it. If they are unreasonable multiply it. If they are angry multiply it. If they are consumed by money multiply it.”
Whatever made that individual difficult in marriage will follow you into divorce.
Those same relationship arguments will materialize.
They will be intensified by the issues which were never resolved. The anger will still be present with either…
