I know! It's especially sad for my three boys. One of our son's said, "What kind of man leaves the mother of his children with no savings or retirement." It's become a burden to my children because they don't want to be like their father. I appreciate your empathy. It's amazing how numb people are to this type of financial abuse. Lots of people just shake their heads and say this is what people do in divorce. But it's not. Good men and women don't do this to one another.