I Resented Being My Husband’s Mommy

He should have been accountable for his own behavior

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“Stop taking all of my attention,” I say. “I have three children who need and deserve it.”

My husband ignores my words in favor of acting out.

He is drinking and behaving badly.

It confuses me.

I tell him, again and again, to face whatever is bothering him, and deal with it. Instead, I am left to be his mommy. Where’s he going? How’s he getting home? Will he be safe? Will he upset the kids?

I am overly responsible for his actions while he is being irresponsible.

I have recently told my husband it feels lonely being married to him.

Initially, he takes this as a challenge.

The threat of me leaving makes him want to win me back. But soon those feelings turn to anger. I have yet to hear the word narcissist, let alone my husband’s diagnosis of Narcissistic personality disorder.

Hence, I mistake the drinking as a grown man in distress, a mid-life crisis.

Not a narcissist’s fury.

But I have unleashed an evil.

I don’t understand this narcissistic cycle so I continue to be his mommy. I speak but he…