I Still Write About Breakups Even Though I’m Happy Again

Why I want to rescue others from heartache

Colleen Sheehy Orme
2 min readMay 25, 2021

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The other night I cried. Not sad tears. Grateful tears.

I thanked God for getting my children and I through these difficult times.

I could almost taste the terror of yesterday.

It’s scary to leave a marriage and start over. But when you leave an individual who is vengeful enough to bully you near destruction, it can be incapacitating.

I started writing about my divorce because the experience felt lonely.

Not the absence of another person lonely…

But of others who understood what I was going through. I wanted someone to limp along with me. And to find others who had successfully gained their footing.

I needed someone to understand I felt in over my head.

Ultimately, I found my people. The other ones resting on tear inflated pillows, awake at three in the morning, uncertain of what to expect next.

The lonely ones like me.

Gentle beings in over their head.

I am deeply spiritual.

My belief is our pain is our purpose.

Some divorces, I like to call them breakups, so much less stigma-inducing, are quick and painless. Some are a bit more complicated. Some are brutal. And some are elongated, extreme, and drive a person towards emotional extinction.

My divorce was extreme.

I always say I fell down farther than most so I could help others get up.

I am happy now.

Every single day gets better as does my resolve to help others.

Not just through divorce but through restoration.

What I call “Woman Resurrected.”

Anyone who knows me understands I believe in living far outside my four walls. I have devoted years to my community and charities. So continuing…

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Colleen Sheehy Orme

National Relationship Columnist, Journalist & Former Business Columnist. I cover love, life, & relationships— #WomanResurrected colleen.sheehy.orme@gmail.com