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Relationships and Dating

I’m Not the Lonely Woman at the Bar

Here’s the reason why and here’s the man I’m looking for

Colleen Sheehy Orme

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People tell me I should date. I think they believe it’s a magical post-break-up fix. A cure-all for the recovering heart.

It’s not that I don’t ponder it.

I’m just not ready.

When I broke up with my husband I lost myself.

Not because he stole me.

But because I freely gave myself away.

Nothing makes me sadder than sharing these words.

But I failed to protect myself and got lost.

Honestly, I didn’t have self-protective instincts.

In my absolute belief in love, friendship, union, loyalty, and all things good…I refused to believe the one I loved could harm who I am.

But I am no longer innocent, naive, and trusting.

I am guarded.

I do not date because I am attempting to return to my best after my worst.

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