I’m so sorry this experience truly leaves us feeling desperate. It’s almost inconceivable that one person is able to do this but as you said, it is insidious and the control increases over time. Before we know it we’ve lost the best of ourselves to a ruthless predator. I’ve written a few things lately. One called “I Gave Myself Away” and another called “I’m Catching Up With Myself.” It’s a long journey but it does get better. You gave me an idea to write about one perspective I haven’t written about. I have written about financial abuse and all of it but my husband also decided my value. It’s outrageous to think these men think they can tell us what we deserve and are worth but they do.