I’m so sorry you have experienced this too. I wrote a piece called “Men Fall In Love With Narcissists Too.” I’m not sure if you’ve read it yet or not. I always say I’m not sure which is worse, a man or a woman who is a narcissist. They are equally threatening and traumatic with some variations in how their behavior is unleashed. I hear from men all of the time because there isn’t enough help for people escaping and understanding narcissism.