Love

My Ex-Husband Has a Girlfriend

I thought I would care but I don’t

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The once fictional question has become real. My ex-husband has a girlfriend. This person exists. She’s now with a man who I once believed I could never live without.

I know this because he texted me a picture of her. Like I was his new-found buddy. I’m not sure if this illustrates forward movement or reinforces I made the right decision to divorce him.

I will probably like the woman my ex-husband ends up with. I am certain she will be caring and compassionate.

A selfish man (person) will once again gravitate towards the only thing which balances his need to take. A woman (person) with a compulsion to give.

This isn’t always the case. Relationship mistakes don’t have to repeat themselves. Some are interested in learning and growth. Some are not. In my case, I had a spouse who resisted self-reflection.

Perhaps it’s because I stayed too long in an unhappy marriage, perhaps it’s the way he hurt our children, perhaps it’s because I fully accept who he is, or perhaps it’s because I’ve had enough counseling to genuinely heal.

Kind and caring people are typically too busy giving, to understand what is being taken from them.

Especially when the taker is hidden within a charming and pretty package. Compassionate people are filled with too much empathy to see anything but the good in others. An ageless naivete that makes them far more susceptible to one they never saw coming.

Written by

National Relationship Columnist, Freelance Journalist & Former Business Columnist. All Shapes of Love — #WomanResurrected colleen.sheehy.orme@gmail.com

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