My First Date With a Narcissist Was a Red Flag

But I missed it by making excuses for him

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I’d like to blame it on being nineteen and young and dumb. But the real reason I missed our first date red flag was that I had a tendency to make excuses for people.

Combine that with covert narcissism and the warning was less obvious.

I was in school in Scranton, Pennsylvania when I met my husband.

We had a chance meeting at a college kegger and for the next month, he seemed to pop up everywhere I went. I had no interest in him which makes my tolerance of his first date screw up even more baffling.

I literally said yes because he made me laugh and he wouldn’t relent.

Enter first date red flag.

I got dressed to go out and I waited to hear from him.

Nothing, not a word.

Now, this guy had chased me for a month and tracked down my number through other people. You see when I finally succumbed and said yes, he followed me outside the bar to get my phone number. But after swearing to memorize it, a few Genesee Brews got in the way.

He ends up calling my old freshman dorm number and unbelievably, the girls call another ‘Colleen’ to the phone. Eventually, she realizes the…