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Should You Stay in an Unhappy Marriage for Your Children?
I thought I should but my children were smarter than me
One day my eleven-year-old son walked into the kitchen.
His father and I were having a conversation. I honestly can’t remember the topic. My son’s comment replaced its significance.
“Why do you talk to Dad?” he asked. “He can’t hear you. It’s the same conversation over and over again.”
Kids are wise.
They can see beyond the obvious because they live in an uncrowded and unfiltered worldview.
I was in my forties when I began to yell. Prior to that, I raised my voice only occasionally. It’s one of my greatest regrets. It’s an absurd way to get someone’s attention.
I had told my husband I was feeling unhappily married.
He met my words with alcohol which upset our children which made me yell.
It was an escalation.
I had tried talking to him. Reasoning with him. Pleading with him.
My children understood our relationship was deteriorating.
Unfortunately, it was on full display.
Because their father had chosen an outlet for his anger.
