That’s awful she did that to you and the boys. I hope you can legally alter that asap. You were more than generous with support. The problem with these personalities is they can drag things out. The only way it gets better is by what you are doing no contact and finally not caring enough about them to let them get a rise out of you. Unfortunately, they use our children which will get a rise out of us even if we no longer care about them because we love our children and they are using, confusing, and abusing them to get what they want.