Relationship

Why All Woman Need to Live By Goldie Hawn’s Advice

The invaluable relationship lesson she shared with daughter Kate Hudson

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“Don’t you ever let a man dim your light.”

“He’s afraid you are going to outshine him,” said my sister.

Ever the insightful one, I took careful note of her observation. I tucked it neatly away in my mind and allowed my heart to take the lead. A fancy way of saying I dismissed it…as only love can do.

At the time, I didn’t see the piercing red flag surrendering before me.

Make no mistake, it was the reddest of relationship flags. My husband got little joy out of seeing me happy nor easing my worries nor cheering me on. Nor celebrating who I was.

But I didn’t become the best of me. I felt limited. Keenly aware I was discarding parts of myself for the sake of another.

Or as he once told a friend of mine, “Colleen can do whatever she wants as long as it’s not a headache to me.”

A night years in the making. Zillions of rejections. A dream since childhood. I was being published in Washingtonian Magazine. No small feat. It is a major publication in one of the largest media markets in the country.

He was afraid I would outshine him.

He embarrassed himself completely unable to acknowledge my achievement. But worse, be happy the girl, the dreamer…actually had her dream come true.

But he limited my shine.

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National Relationship Columnist, Freelance Journalist & Former Business Columnist. All Shapes of Love — #WomanResurrected colleen.sheehy.orme@gmail.com

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