Wow, that's incredible. I always say I don't know which is worse. A man or a woman who is a narcissist. But they are both equally damaging with some similarities and some differences. I've encountered both. Gender doesn't matter because it's a frightening disorder man or woman. Hopefully, you left after that. You know what my marriage counselor told me? He said in all of the years he had been in practice, my husband was one of the 3 most severe personalities he'd ever counseled.