Wow you are judgmental. Not sure why. As a journalist, I will tell you that some of the best writers have the ability to be vulnerable when others cannot. When others need a refuge but are too afraid to share their pain a writer provides refuge. My friend isn't just generous to me. He's generous to everyone in our building, and it was overly generous for a birthday gift. I didn't judge my former husband unworthy of a discussion. A psychologist diagnosed my husband as dangerously lacking empathy and having narcissistic personality disorder on the severe end of the spectrum. My friends and family feared he could harm me by the end of our divorce so I choose to elevate awareness so that no woman and children are left without basic needs such as food, health insurance, electricity, and transportation because of a divorce. You seem to think I'm guessing by your comment that I'm a woman who wasn't fair to a man. Noting could be farther from the truth. My children begged me to leave their father because he was drinking and scaring us. Both mean and women behave badly so be careful not to judge based on gender.